Refuse To Be Offended (Justin Maust)

Book Karin & David Today Refuse to be Offended (Justin Maust) Justin and I were launched to 1 another via a typical connection who just knew we needed to know one another primarily based on our values-based strategy to management. One factor led to another, and in a couple of weeks, I’m delighted to be keynoting at his Lead USA event in South Bend, Indiana and simulcast (learn extra about the event right here). I’m impressed by Justin’s confident humilityâ€"executing on a powerful imaginative and prescient for a rock-star occasion that grows every year, along with the humility to search out new ways to serve. One easy tactic to give your group an edge. Sometimes a leader needs to be the hammer. You strike a nail to place it in its correct place so that it can hold a construction collectively for decades. Other times you need to be the nail. Allow the hammer to strike you so as to successfully support the construction. It’s impossible for the hammer to carry the construction together alone…the nail is his solely hope. It’s additional ly inconceivable for the nail to have any real influence or value to the home with out being struck. Bad hammers ruin good nails. Bad nails get bent over the smallest swings. Refuse to be offended at present. Great leaders must strike the issues that disrupt progress and nice group members need to be mature enough to obtain the strike. When nails leave their place, the house falls apart. When hammers refuse to swing, nothing gets built. A bent nail finally gets thrown away. A hammer that refuses to be swung is solely a paperweight. The Brutal Truth Taking offense or not taking offense is a choice. Each time a remark is directed at you or every time someone sends an email…you've a alternative. We overlook that fact. Offense is a alternative. It’s a call to permit your self to turn into indignant, bitter, resentful, hateful, etc. What does it imply to take offense? You allowed one other human being to get underneath your skin. Here are the synonyms of the word “offense”: annoy ance, anger, resentment, indignation, irritation, exasperation, wrath, displeasure, animosity, vexation, sick feelings, disgruntlement, rage. The drawback with taking offense is that we predict it will make us feel higher concerning the state of affairs. Or that being offended allows us to get back at that particular person. But the easy truth is that this: We are the ones which might be harboring all this negative energy. It’s bottled inside of you. When you enable your self to turn out to be offended, you start to let anger, resentment, wrath, animosity, indignation to stay inside your physique. Carry “OFFENSE” inside you lengthy enough and you might be certain to show some physical & emotional symptoms because of the stress and strain that it brings. The Antidote to Being Offended When you might be offended, you're thinking and specializing in your self. When you might be offended, you feel as though someone is attacking you personally and it’s straightforward to let your feelings take over. The root of offense is PRIDE. Offense occurs since you are considering too extremely of your self. The ROOT problem of getting OFFENDED by others or being OFFENSIVE to others is PRIDE. Humility is the antidote that will treatment your illness of delight. In Good to Great, Jim Collins writes about the Level 5 Executive. Extreme Humility is one of the two character traits of leaders that take their firms from Good to GREAT. Pat Lencioni writes about humility in his guide, The Ideal Team Player. He says there are three virtues that create the best group members: Humble, Hungry and Smart. Out of the three, he says that being HUMBLE is crucial virtue of the three. Proverbial knowledge even tells you that God opposes the proud and gives grace to the humble. Pride kills group chemistry. Pride creates silos. Pride is what causes leaders to suppose too extremely of themselves. Humility changes your perspective. Humility causes your focus to go from ME to WE…..from “W HAT DO I THINK IS THE RIGHT STEP?” to “WHAT DO WE THINK IS THE RIGHT STEP?” from “WHAT DECISION WILL MAKE ME LOOK GOOD?” to “WHAT DECISION WILL MAKE US ACHIEVE OUR GOAL?” A simple “Google” search definition of humility: A modest or low view of one’s personal significance; humbleness. As you follow the virtue of humility, you'll turn into much less and fewer offended by others and increasingly more involved about serving to others and your staff succeed. While this will not be a fast repair, humility permits you and your staff to build a dynamic tradition that may enhance your group’s degree of trust, transparency, and ability to solve complicated problems with others. TAKE ACTION TODAY: Refuse to be offended by selecting to reside with humility each day. In Winning Well workshops, as leaders decrease their guard and start to discuss the true points they face every day, one that inevitably comes up is what to do with individuals who get indignant, upset, or offe nded whenever you really haven’t carried out something inappropriate. We respect Justin’s reply here: humility. We frequently invite leaders to remember that you are not the center of anybody else’s universe. People’s habits is mostly about them, not about you. The exception, after all, is when you have handled someone inappropriately, damaged your word, or harm someone. Having the humility to personal your habits and apologize is just as essential to build trust and improve your relationships. Author and worldwide keynote speaker David Dye provides leaders the roadmap they should remodel results with out shedding their soul (or mind) within the process. He will get it as a result of he’s been there: a former government and elected official, David has over twenty years of experience leading groups and building organizations. He is President of Let's Grow Leaders and the award-winning writer of a number of books: Courageous Cultures: How to Build Teams of Micro-Innovators, Problem Solvers, and Customer Advocates (Harper Collins Summer 2020), Winning Well: A Manager's Guide to Getting Results-Without Losing Your Soul, Overcoming an Imperfect Boss, and Glowstone Peak. - a guide for readers of all ages about braveness, affect, and hope. Post navigation Your e mail handle won't be revealed. Required fields are marked * Comment Name * Email * Website This site makes use of Akismet to scale back spam. Learn how your remark information is processed. Join the Let's Grow Leaders neighborhood at no cost weekly leadership insights, instruments, and methods you should use right away!